Does a broken heart heal? If you break your arm you can locate the fracture point years later in an Xray. If we could Xray our broken hearts would we see the evidence?
So….. I’ve interviewed many widows and widowers who self-report being widowed from a happy marriage. Some of these people lost their spouses 2 years ago, some lost theirs up to 6 years ago and they all say the love still sits in their hearts. Without exception.
One person said, “It never hurts less it only hurts less often.”
Here’s another, “I think about her most days and smile, but my heart still hurts.”
And this, “When someone mentions his name I want to cry. After all these years he’s still in my heart and I miss him.”
A woman shared, “I can’t seem to fill the space of my broken heart. I can add more love into the pieces, but my heart is still broken.”
Does your heart still show the signs of the fault line from a teenage first love, lost? I think it does. I still remember to the day and minute when my heart was first broken. His name was Bill. The details of the event no longer matter, but I recall the feeling, the endless pit of the stomach emptiness of a broken heart.
When we suffer, and that’s what we do – suffer, a broken heart there are choices:
Choice 1. The broken heart can define you – you will be the girl whose heart was forever broken by Bill and all other loves are compared to this.
Choice 2. The broken heart can close you – you will be the guy whose broken heart closed the door on loving again.
Choice 3. The broken heart can teach you – you will be the girl whose broken heart taught her how to love again.
Those are the options. We love, and eventually, our hearts are broken. They are broken because we end the relationship and break our own heart because of the dreams that will never come true, or our lover leaves us and breaks our heart because we are no longer loved, or the person we love dies and breaks our heart forever – or so it seems.
Hearts are made to love and eventually be broken.
There is a choice to be made.