Do you believe in love at first sight? I’m not sure I do, but I do believe we can fall in love with a touch or a look. Granted, it sounds like I’m contradicting myself, but hear me out. I think you have to know the person for a few weeks to at least fit into the space where you allow yourself to be vulnerable with the person.
I have a friend who has dated this guy for a couple months. They were at a loud, rambunctious sporting event, each involved in the game, she screaming at every play, he analyzing each move. She was up and down in the seat; he was still as if pensively waiting his turn for something. She sat down after a missed free throw and they naturally cozied up to one another with the rhythm of a much more experienced couple.
She put her hand on his thigh, he returned the touch. It all flowed. The game raging in the background, she turned her head to the right. He turned his head to the left. Eyes locked. She knew the way you know you’re falling down a hill, there’s nothing to grab onto, no way to stop the fall, she was in love with this man. She kept it to herself.
A few days later, he grabbed her by the waist and pulled her near, “I will never forget that game.”
Not sure where he was going with this comment and fearing what he might say, she did not reply. Looking up toward his Paul Newman blue eyes, he lowered his head slowly to capture her gaze. “When you touched me and looked into my eyes, I knew I loved you.”
She exhaled. They had fallen in love in a moment with a touch, with a look.
What’s the lesson here? Yes, you can fall in love quickly but you have to be open to it, you have to be available for it, and you have to be vulnerable. Nothing intimate ever happens without vulnerability. The lesson here is to be open to the possibility of falling in love in the strangest place, with a look or a touch, or if you’re lucky – both.